Since wanting to get back into blogging, I have thought about what my blog posts on here should be about. I created this blog to help keep my focus on becoming a counsellor and on mental health in general. I have decided to start writing my responses to posts about mental health, psychology and the likes. This is where Thursday Thoughts come in to play. Thursday thoughts are going to be my thoughts on things I have read or seen or just well my thoughts about psychology and the likes.
Today, I looked through my twitter feed on my list “Mental Health, etc.” I found a post about “14 Ways to Deal with “Back to School” Anxiety”. Since it is that time of year for most students, I thought this would be a good topic to start on.
First of all, I don’t think I ever had that back to school anxiety but it could also be because I went to preschool with a lot of the same people I went to kindergarten with and even going from elementary school to high school, I had known a lot of the people from before. Obviously there was still maybe half the class in high school that I didn’t know but I think because I got so used to seeing the same people over and over again, I just never felt nervous or stressed. Going into university, living in the dorms, I got to meet people before going to the classes so, again nothing to be fearful of. When I did the Autism and Behavioural Science Program, I was a bit nervous because I didn’t really know what to expect, like when I started my counselling program a few months ago. But once I started it was like the same old routine.
All of that being said, the first point the authour of the post talks about is the temporariness of school and bullying. Again, I was never bullied, I did however stand up to people who bullied my friends. As I talked about above, I went to school pretty much with the same people from preschool till about grade 12. Can you imagine how permanent school and bullying would feel like for those students?? It’s easy for us to say “school is just temporary and so is bullying” but imagine those students who are getting bullied for the majority of their life. Even those who come out of it on top may still be scarred by the emotional, mental, verbal, physical abuse of their childhood. When someone is depressed telling them to snap out of it, is one of the worst things you can say and I wonder if that is the same for those who are bullied, telling them that it’s just temporary and it will pass, does that really make it easier? I’m not saying that it’s not a good way to think of things but for instance, a lot of deaths caused by bullying in the past year or so, have been due to cyberbullying and as we all know, what goes on to the internet, will probably remain on it forever. School might be temporary but bullying… it may stay with you forever. Sorry to sound pessimistic, but to me, if you don’t deal with the problem, beat the problem, become stronger and own the problem, won’t you be held back because of the problem? Not sure if I am making sense, I am sort of thinking out loud, which is what these posts are going to be like. What I am trying to say is that the people who have come out of it on top, didn’t just come out of it because school ended, it’s due to other reasons that maybe kids today can do even before school ends. Those who survived bullying, how did you survive?
I do like a lot of points the authour makes, however keep in mind, these are the things that help the authour. I like the points she makes about how everyone is insecure, and how tomorrow is a new day. I’m not so sure about the new beginnings and new friends thing, but I definitely made my rounds in high school. What I mean by that, is that I would try to just hang out with different people who have different interests. I never changed who I was just to “fit in” with whatever group I was hanging out with, I kind of just hung out and learned about different things I never would have otherwise learned about.
I especially like point number 12, “other people’s opinions matter only how much you allow them too.” I completely agree with that point. I never cared about what other people thought, I just did my own thing. Can you tell I was a bit of a loner? I still kind of am but I have no problems with that.
There is a lot of good pointers on that post that I am sure other people will gravitate to but honestly, you are only as stressed as you stress yourself out to be. So, try and relax or better yet, act like you’ve done this a million times because well, you have? Just think, how many times have you walked through those school doors? How many times have you walked down that hallway? How many times have you been to class? What’s so different about this time? Just because you are going back to school doesn’t mean it has to be stressful, for me, I don’t think I ever was stressed because it was a routine. Every year around September we go back to school, continue the same/similar routine every day until June when we have a couple months off for summer vacation. It’s the cycle of life. Not any different from last year unless you want it to be, and not any different next year.
Did you ever suffer from “Back to School” anxiety? What did you do to help combat those nerves?