to: parents – it doesn’t matter if you are sick

to: parents

It doesn’t matter if you are sick or not, you still have to look after your child.

After I posted my post on Monday, I fell ill (this is why I haven’t had a chance to take a pic of my #mombod). I ended up getting a mild fever and just didn’t feel well. Unfortunately for me, my fiancé was at work and was going to be working the next day as well.

Parenthood is about being sick and still having to do your job and look after your kid. And that I did. I wasn’t the most upbeat and playful with my child but I sucked it up and took care of my child the best I could at that moment. It was also the first time I was seriously ill with the child by myself. So, it was definitely a learning experience.

I found that it probably took me a day longer to completely get well, but I’m all better today. Not able to sleep all day was the major reason for the extra day of being ill. Hopefully I didn’t get my fiancé or my son sick. Not sure what happened.

The hardest part for me was just not being able to do the stuff I normally do like clean up. It didn’t help my son became super needy too.

I did almost everything, fed him, bathed him, let him play but I couldn’t do any of the behind the scenes stuff like wash his bottles, make his formula, get things ready, etc. I felt horrible leaving it up to my fiancé but I knew I needed to rest. 

I give kudos to any single parents out there who have to do everything on their own and literally get no days off. I’m lucky I have my fiancé who has always been able to pick up the slack.

❤ Sarah

Monday Momplaints – The Mom Bod

to: everyone

You hear about the dad bod but what about the mom bod? The dad bod is hot, the mom bod… Not so much?

Some moms call their stretchmarks, their tiger stripes but some moms don’t get stretchmarks. So that’s not very inclusive of all moms.

So, why don’t we start a new thing, the MOM BOD? 

It’s not about the scars or stretchmarks you can get from bearing a child and giving birth to a child because some moms can’t do these things and that doesn’t make them any less of a mom.

The mom bod is about whatever body you are in while taking care of your child. We should look at our chub as dads do. The dad bod is a thing, why can’t the mom bod be a thing. It’s hard work to take care of a child and sometimes moms neglect their own bodies and you know what, that’s fine. And for the moms that look amazing, you go girl! Be our inspiration. 

The Mom Bod – it comes in all shapes and sizes. It is the body that keeps us going while we take care of our children. 

❤ Sarah 

PS: follow me on Instagram @tomesarah and see my #mombod when a baby isn’t sleeping in my arms and I can actually take a picture #momlife

to: me – parenthood changes almost everything

to: me

Before my son was born, I was still set on becoming a counsellor. Now, I’m not so sure.

Before I got pregnant, we wanted to travel the world together and get married (elope). Now, we have to think more about where we should spend our money.

It seems like everything has changed since being pregnant and having our son. Priorities have definitely changed.

It’s not a bad thing but it is what it is. And guess what, I feel like I’m back to square one.

To continue my studies and become a counsellor or do something completely different but am loving right now.

Writing is my therapy, thus this blog will remain “a little bit of therapy with a whole lot of life”. It’s also why I’m writing my thoughts aloud which is what this post is.

I’m thinking about doing both to be quite honest. I need jobs that are flexible with my fiancé’s schedule or I need a steady job with the same hours and earn more than minimum wage. Daycare is expensive and so I’ve been thinking of what I can do so that we aren’t spending my entire wage on daycare.

And here I end this post with a question to all those parents out there:

What changed the most for you once you were pregnant/had a kid?

Did any of you change careers right after?

Technically my fiancé was in the process of changing careers when I was pregnant and is now doing a little bit of both, which is exhausting for him but we believe it will work out in the end.

❤ Sarah