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to: parents – it doesn’t matter if you are sick

to: parents

It doesn’t matter if you are sick or not, you still have to look after your child.

After I posted my post on Monday, I fell ill (this is why I haven’t had a chance to take a pic of my #mombod). I ended up getting a mild fever and just didn’t feel well. Unfortunately for me, my fiancé was at work and was going to be working the next day as well.

Parenthood is about being sick and still having to do your job and look after your kid. And that I did. I wasn’t the most upbeat and playful with my child but I sucked it up and took care of my child the best I could at that moment. It was also the first time I was seriously ill with the child by myself. So, it was definitely a learning experience.

I found that it probably took me a day longer to completely get well, but I’m all better today. Not able to sleep all day was the major reason for the extra day of being ill. Hopefully I didn’t get my fiancé or my son sick. Not sure what happened.

The hardest part for me was just not being able to do the stuff I normally do like clean up. It didn’t help my son became super needy too.

I did almost everything, fed him, bathed him, let him play but I couldn’t do any of the behind the scenes stuff like wash his bottles, make his formula, get things ready, etc. I felt horrible leaving it up to my fiancé but I knew I needed to rest. 

I give kudos to any single parents out there who have to do everything on their own and literally get no days off. I’m lucky I have my fiancé who has always been able to pick up the slack.

❤ Sarah

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Monday Momplaints – The Mom Bod

to: everyone

You hear about the dad bod but what about the mom bod? The dad bod is hot, the mom bod… Not so much?

Some moms call their stretchmarks, their tiger stripes but some moms don’t get stretchmarks. So that’s not very inclusive of all moms.

So, why don’t we start a new thing, the MOM BOD? 

It’s not about the scars or stretchmarks you can get from bearing a child and giving birth to a child because some moms can’t do these things and that doesn’t make them any less of a mom.

The mom bod is about whatever body you are in while taking care of your child. We should look at our chub as dads do. The dad bod is a thing, why can’t the mom bod be a thing. It’s hard work to take care of a child and sometimes moms neglect their own bodies and you know what, that’s fine. And for the moms that look amazing, you go girl! Be our inspiration. 

The Mom Bod – it comes in all shapes and sizes. It is the body that keeps us going while we take care of our children. 

❤ Sarah 

PS: follow me on Instagram @tomesarah and see my #mombod when a baby isn’t sleeping in my arms and I can actually take a picture #momlife

Fed Friday's

Fed Friday’s – Baby’s First Solids

Since Tux is now 6 months and we have just had our 6 month doctors appointment, it was time for solids.

We may have gotten too excited and may have started with two things. Please keep in mind, we asked our doctor and we did wait till the new recommendation of 6 months to feed him solids even though he has been ready for months.

One being baby mum-mums, which by the way was his very very first. 


Then, we tried broccoli, which most people wouldn’t try first but we did because a) we love broccoli and b) it’s a vegetable that isn’t too too sweet.


Being first time parents we are playing around with it just as much as our son is.

Since we started solids, we figured it was time to give him water too. We are only giving water with the solids not replacing formula one bit.


Today would be day 3 of broccoli. We only fed the single baby mum-mum that first day and saving the other one for times when we can’t feed him formula like in the car. 

What was your baby’s first solids?

❤ Sarah

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to: me – parenthood changes almost everything

to: me

Before my son was born, I was still set on becoming a counsellor. Now, I’m not so sure.

Before I got pregnant, we wanted to travel the world together and get married (elope). Now, we have to think more about where we should spend our money.

It seems like everything has changed since being pregnant and having our son. Priorities have definitely changed.

It’s not a bad thing but it is what it is. And guess what, I feel like I’m back to square one.

To continue my studies and become a counsellor or do something completely different but am loving right now.

Writing is my therapy, thus this blog will remain “a little bit of therapy with a whole lot of life”. It’s also why I’m writing my thoughts aloud which is what this post is.

I’m thinking about doing both to be quite honest. I need jobs that are flexible with my fiancé’s schedule or I need a steady job with the same hours and earn more than minimum wage. Daycare is expensive and so I’ve been thinking of what I can do so that we aren’t spending my entire wage on daycare.

And here I end this post with a question to all those parents out there:

What changed the most for you once you were pregnant/had a kid?

Did any of you change careers right after?

Technically my fiancé was in the process of changing careers when I was pregnant and is now doing a little bit of both, which is exhausting for him but we believe it will work out in the end.

❤ Sarah 

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Fed Friday’s – Fed is Best Rant

Disclaimer: This is a rant. It’s not meant to offend anyone but it probably will and I accept that. Please be respectful of everyone’s opinions. We can all agree to disagree right?

to: parents

I never knew there was such controversy over how you feed your baby till I was pregnant.

First, Fed is Best. It shouldn’t matter how you feed your baby as long as you are providing for your baby. You are doing what’s best for you and your family.

What irks me the most is honestly this fight for the right to breastfeed in public. Why does this irk me? Because you do have that right (as far as I am aware it is legal to breastfeed in public in Canada), you moms are annoyed that some people look at you a certain way when you have your breast sticking out and in your child’s mouth or that some people find it offensive. I’m sorry but if you saw a random woman on the street with their breast sticking out, will you honestly tell me that you won’t stare and find it offensive? If you want to fight, go topless, make it the norm for women to be topless because it isn’t a norm, people find it odd and offensive. Some will say breastfeeding is natural but so is being naked thus my whole topless argument.

Now to continue with this topless argument is the fact that it’s not like exclusive breast pumpers can throw there boobs out and put the machine on their boob in public just to feed their child, and to make sure their supply doesn’t dry up. So, breast feeders, don’t you feel lucky you can feed your baby where ever and whenever they need to? This is again why I believe that the real fight is to make naked breasts a norm. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to bring your pump anywhere and just sit on a bench and whip out your boobs to pump some milk rather than running home or hiding?

Now to change it up, formula feeders don’t you get annoyed when you go somewhere you have to bring twice as many things as a breastfeeder? Or how some other parents may shame you for formula feeding? Don’t be ashamed, don’t destroy yourself for not being able to breastfeed, be happy you are able to feed your child.

It doesn’t matter how we feed our babies but that they are fed yet we argue so much about breast is best, our rights and just in general what to feed, when to feed, etc.

What works for you, may not work for others.

Also, this isn’t a post FOR being topless, it’s more to show the ridiculousness of these arguments. 

Love yourself, love your baby, and feed your baby.

❤ Sarah